Lay down the cash where it matters most: pay for her cab home (in the morning), bring a great bottle of wine, or buy her a small gift.There are oh so many ways that lesbians can have bad boundaries, but right here I want to focus on one: DO NOT bring a date to a girl bar or a girl party.Like the time a girl’s ex showed up and wanted career advice, or when you realized the girl you were dating was emotionally unavailable because she was having an affair with her married friend. For the love of getting laid, stop telling dates about your exes!In particular, don’t use your exes as some kind of weird parable for what you actually want from someone. If you want someone who can articulate their feelings like a big girl, just tell your date that.Oh, and no phones or electronic devices on this date.Keep the focus on each other, and that kickass potato salad you’ll make.Don’t tell them some long, awkward story about how your ex was emotionally constipated and couldn’t say “I love you.” Save that shit for your therapist or your bartender.
Why not think outside the box and take her to a pole dancing class?Finding creative ways to come up with a great date idea can be occasionally stressful, but my approach has always been to keep is simple.Some of my favorite past dates are ones that were not planned; random adventures always end up with random results, and usually give you awesome story fodder for later.Then, and only then, can you have a first date that hits it out of the park.
You might imagine that dating a new woman will be a lot like starring in your very own girl-on-girl romantic comedy: you’ll be asked out in some quirky yet perfect way, your date will clearly express interest in you and be a master of seduction, and when you finally have sex, it will be like the 4th of July in your pants and Christmas in your heart (or Hanukkah, whatevs). I think we all have our own lesbian dating horror stories that we like to tell our friends as a warning of things to come. If we could just collectively raise the bar a little and invest as much in the art of dating as we do in the art of Facebooking, maybe lesbian courtship could be a brave new world. The revolution won’t come overnight, so let’s start small with some of the main DOs and DONT’s.Just remember to bring a tripod and put your camera on a timer, or grab a selfie stick.